HOW TO OVERCOME SUBMISSIVE BEHAVIOUR

HOW TO OVERCOME WITH SUBMISSIVE BEHAVIOUR

“ Submissive” -People who are submissive tend to:

a) Avoid stating their needs and feelings;

b) Communicate their needs and feelings in an apologetic way; and

c) Give others rights that they don’t claim for themselves.

What is Submissive Behaviour?

A submissive is a person who makes a conscious choice to give up some or all control of her life to another person - a Dominant or a Top. A submissive is a person who feels the need to give up their rights and free will to be controlled by another, ie to submit.

The submissive person is a shrinking violet who avoids upsetting others either because of fear or of compassion. When things go wrong, submissive people assume that they are to blame in some way and accept guilt when singled out by others.

Characteristics of Submissive Behaviour

The characteristics of submissive behaviour are as intervertedness, pessimistic attitude, emotional instability, passive, shy, sensitive, self-centered, anxiety ridden, helplessness, lack of self-concept and lack of interpersonal relationship.

(e.g) A child is bullied at school but neither fights back nor tells the teachers. They may wish they could be stronger, like the bully.

How to Overcome Submissive Behaviour?

Encourage the submissive person to be interactive with their family members and friends help sharing their emotions and feelings. Participation in social events with full involvement and interest and reading inspiring books can enhance their confidential level increasing their self-confidence by shedding their inhibition help them develop relationship with others.

Steps to Overcome Submissive Behaviour

1.      Trust in God:- Be hold God, He will give the strength. If everyone trusts in God, that will enable them to be courageous and come out of their submissive behaviour.

2.      Know the strength and weaknesses: - Spend time for self-introspection to become aware of one’s own strength and weaknesses. Take necessary actions/steps to increase the strength and reduce the weaknesses.

3.      ‘Be yourself and accept yourself’:- With one’s own limitations, one should accept oneself and be assertive to stand for his/her own rights.

4.      Believe in yourself:- Trust one’s own self, so as to improve self-confidence. This will increase the self-esteem in a person to face all the challenges with courage.

5.      Improve interpersonal relationship:- Interpersonal relationship skill makes a person to become more jovial, helpful and stress free, which will enable him/her to become a successful personality.

6.      Have open mindedness:- Open mindedness welcome healthy criticism which will make the person become self-reliant and overcome all his/her shortcomings.

7.      Be an extrovert:- By adopting all the above said techniques one can overcome his/her submissive behaviour and become an extrovert personality. 

Mrs. Y. Elin Shibi,

Asst. Prof. in Physical Science Education.